All good things must come to an end. However, it never states that all good things must come to a good end. Tonight, How I Met Your Mother aired its series finale and unlike so many out there, I enjoyed the bittersweet ending. Of course, there were points that I absolutely hated, but ultimately endings are never perfect. And, when they are, we still hate them (take in account the happy Harry Potter epilogue people hated).
Although I felt affected by the romantic relationships between the characters, there were other issues that stood out to me. I think that most people gloss over the fact that friendship was a big part of this show. As much as it was about Ted meeting the Mother, it was about the friendship between the gang. It’s about how friendships come together, grow and eventually drift apart.
To me, the single most upsetting scene of that finale was when Robin tells Lily that they aren’t “the gang” anymore. I’m at the point in my life where I don’t know how my friendships will end. I don’t know when I won’t have my gang anymore. I understand that time zones, work, and eventually growing up will get in the way of many of the friendships I’ve forged in the past 19 years. We no longer share every big moment together, or have the gang together for everything. It happens slowly, then all at once, and suddenly, things have dissolved. It’s terrifying, but it’s true.
I think often we get angry when shows reflect the fears we have, when they reflect the future that may happen, when they reflect real life. Things don’t and will never end perfectly. The only thing that keeps us from going crazy is to have enough faith that things will turn out okay. If HIMYM has taught me one thing, it’s to have faith in the things you love. Whether it be a dream you love or a person, you must have faith in it.
Ted always had faith that he would find the Mother, and he did. He got his chance with his soulmate, but it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t get a second chance with another. Sometimes, we’re so set with only having one person be perfect for us. If only things were that simple. People change, they evolve. In different times of our lives, different people may become our soul mates. I’m not saying you can’t stick with one person if you’ve found the one, but I don’t think you should be robbed of love or happiness if they leave (willingly or unwillingly). Love is messy and love is scary, but love should never be limited.
Another thing is that people can fall out of love but still love each other. I think it’s a common misconception that people fall in love forever just because we see a snippet of them in a time where they are deeply in love. That can change. Before you call me out for being bitter and evil, hear me out. Often, we only see people fall in love because naturally humans see it as a beautiful wonder of life. We tend to ignore how ugly love can be. People fall out of love all the time, but it doesn’t mean that love still isn’t there. Once you love someone, you always will (even if it’s so minuscule that you don’t even realize it’s there). Nothing more, nothing less. People leave marks you cannot erase.
Reality is never quite as comforting as we’d like it to be. Life isn’t perfect. I wish fairytale endings were less rare, but as Ron Weasley once said, “Oh well, what’s life without a few dragons?”
Bloody hell and best wishes,